Partagé par le vrai Stoppeur de Procrastination de Fabien Olicard sur Youtube.

The definition of success is universally wrong.

• What do you really want?
• What do you really value?
• What are you really doing with your life?

The image is a great illustration: https://kerkour.com/assets/2022/alignment/alignment.png

Hapiness and success are the alignment of what you want, what you value and what you do. It's called alignment in Buddhism. The ideal state of tranquility comes from experiencing body and mind being synchronized. Tranquility is the only way to end suffering, which is the ultimate definition of success.

How to align?

1. slow down, take a break and only then can your mind become clear.
2. write down who you are and what you value
3. write down what you want

Un superbe billet sur la fatigue.

Best ratio ever !

I've noticed that people who can fill in this sentence are much happier than those who can't

For anyone struggling career or purpose-wise, I have a diagnostic for you. Fill this sentence

I believe one of the biggest problems in the world is ___, which is why I'm building/creating/doing ____.

In order to solve the lack of meaning to life, "find a way to write this sentence for yourself."

I think it is a great summary and direct action 😃

Un ami (qui ignore que le milliardaire Stérin finance le RN avec un plan de 150 millions d'euros sur dix ans) vous offre une Smartbox (société de Stérin) ?

Voici comment se faire rembourser sous 14 jours.

(via https://toot.portes-imaginaire.org/@loevenbruck/112939190690252785)

Si vous voulez une réparation très rapide et très solide de quoi que ce soit que vous êtes en train de réparer à la colle : utilisez du fil de coton ou même du coton sous forme de ouate. Ensuite, imbibez ça de superglu et laissez durcir. La réparation sera dure comme la pierre.

Les matériaux composites sont donc excellents: un dire mais cassant et l'autre souple mais résistant. L'exemple le plus courant est le béton armé, comme le verre feuilleté.

If I spent most or all of my free time scrolling social media, playing video games, binge-watching Netflix or some idiot on YouTube, this website certainly wouldn't exist. [...] Boredom is essential to growth

We pile up things to read later that we

Here's the funny thing: In trying to learn everything, we learn very little. We stuff ourselves with information but don't digest it. It's a sign of our times – we want to know more but feel empty.

But at the same time, each saved item is a reminder of our finite nature in contrast to the infinity of knowledge available.

It is a planning fallacy: we overestimate our future time and resources. A way to solve lies is by aligning our aspirations with our actions. [...] "we need to cultivate a habit of selective engagement, where we consciously choose what to consume based on its relevance and value to our personal and professional growth, creating space for thoughtful engagement with content that truly matters rather than mindlessly accumulating information."

This is a list of things you’re allowed to do that you thought you couldn’t, or didn’t even know you could. I haven’t tried everything on this list, mainly due to cost. But you’d be surprised how cheap most of the things on this list are (especially the free ones).

Split into categories:

• Learning & Decision making
• Interpersonal
• Support and accountability
• Making the most of your resources
• Professional

Write on a post-it note affixed to a greeting card rather than on the greeting card itself, so the recipient can throw away the post-it and reuse your card.

The author shares many other lists.

How to better organise files. I am aware of the PARA method, but this one also seems useful.

On me dit encore et encore que j'écris de bons tutoriels et documentations, concises, claires et très compréhensibles. Il m'est déjà arrivé de suivre ou dispenser des formations, et à chaque fois on m'a demandé pourquoi je n'en faisais pas mon métier. Ça me fait plaisir, bien sûr. Mais vous savez pourquoi j'écris de bonnes documentations ? Parce que mon cerveau a deux faiblesses :

• j'ai une mauvaise mémoire.
• j'ai du mal à comprendre une information si elle n'est pas bien contextualisée (si vous sautez du coq à l'âne, vous allez me perdre).

Donc SebSauvage note tout, pour notre plus grande satisfaction.

Dès notre plus jeune âge, on a un idéal de performance. On aime notre sportif préféré quand il gagne et on le délaisse quand il perd. On est félicité quand on gagne et on disparait quand on perd.

Le problème ? C’est que garder cette croyance à l’âge adulte explique notre stagnation.

Pourquoi ? Parce qu’elle nous interdit la moindre erreur. On s’impose toujours plus de performance, sans accepter les baisses de régime liés aux cycles naturels de la vie.

Ai on a la croyance que notre performance doit toujours augmenter, on est programmé pour l’échec.

Au contraire, nous vivons des cycles. Donc si nous n'acceptons pas de descendre de temps en temps, nous ne pouvons tout simplement pas monter.

→ la vie est faite de cycles et c’est ce qui nous permet de grandir.

We think about people outputs but we often miss the input they gave for it !

Routine of Stephan King:

1. Start with coffee at 7:30 AM.
2. Go for a long walk with no technology on me whatsoever.
3. Eat 14 peanuts and have another cup of coffee.
4. Sit down and write at 8:30 AM, no matter what. Keep writing until 11:30 AM.
5. Have lunch at 11:30 AM and don’t worry about writing for the rest of the day, unless I’m in a groove.
6. The key to my success is to write every day, no matter what, between 8:30am and 11:30am. No exceptions.
7. I’ve done that for 38 years and I’ve written 39 books.

that you have to set time aside every day to your activity.

it’s all about making the required lifestyle sacrifices to write every day. [...] You have to start with the inputs. You have to start with the routine. You have to start with the behaviors.

This reasoning seems correct.

• Led or to be led: be led may not be the best four you. If you want to lead, make a plan first.
• Topic sentences: After coming up with a rough outline for whatever you need to write, the next step is to write the topic sentences.
• Get excited
• Unmotivated details: why are you telling me this? → why should this person care about what I'm going to tell them?
• Slides versus speaker: one leads, the other support. This alternate in a presentation.
• Managers as input/output machines: You put into it your update and you get back feedback. The meeting is for your benefit. And more tips for running update meetings with an adviser or manager :)
• Daily progress tracking of objectives and results

With software development, though, mistakes are free! If we make a mistake, we can tab back to our editor, change the code, and try again. We even have helpful error messages that can (sometimes) point us in the right direction. This is an incredible luxury, and not one that we take advantage of enough.

I should the "learn in public" philosophy as it could fit what I want to do :)

Si j’ai un seul conseil à donner à tous les jeunes (et les vieux aussi, hein) : apprenez à faire des trucs.

Je pense principalement à la programmation, mais apprenez aussi à cuisiner, à jardiner, à bricoler, à changer un fusible, à réparer une prise électrique / un pneu / un PC, à créer des choses artistiques (déco, etc.), à parler anglais…

En gros : devenez indépendant pour savoir quoi faire quand ils vous arrive un pépin, ou quand vous avez tout simplement besoin ou envie d’un truc.

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